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Official => Awareness => Topic started by: Ageon Mystmir on January 26, 2024, 08:52:47 PM
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My 18-year-old son continues to play video games even after I smashed his laptop and deleted his Steam account. How can I permanently put an end to his gaming?
My job is to answer the question I am interested in without mindless criticism. Your goal of making your son focus on his education or future is correct, but your method of taking away his laptop or steam account isn't the best way to go about it. If these items are your son's own property, then it's likely he will become even more rebellious and not listen to you. It is true that online games can be damaging to your children, as many parents have experienced first-hand. However, there is nothing wrong with allowing your son to play offline games, such as retro or console games, but only during breaks and after ensuring that he is making progress in his education and future goals. It is important to never allow your son to play online games as they often lead to corruption, rebellion, and even violence. It is not uncommon for strangers to brainwash your son into believing that their virtual family is better than his real family, and that his family is the cause of his miseries. It is important to make sure your son understands why games can be unappealing. Show him that games can lead to addiction, bad habits, and can even lead to financial issues. Games can also encourage violence, which can lead to a lack of empathy and even criminal behavior. Games can also be extremely time consuming, taking away from time spent with family and friends. Overall, it is important to ensure that your son is aware of the potential risks of playing games. While games can be a fun pastime, they must be played responsibly and in moderation.
There are 3 ways to alter his attachment to games to eliminate his “gamer” spirit which is more like “hoax” spirit. This sounds like how fiend-ship works!
The slow way:
- Start a friendly relationship and show him why he must rely on you and nobody else through providing financial support and wisdom. Why so? Not many children or teens are fond of going to work; this is a strategic key to control the child. Some other children won’t like fighting, but you must fight!
- Delve into his life and don't force it out; rather, gain his trust by keeping up with his news and creating a communicative atmosphere until he opens up and reveals whatever has been troubling him. Eventually, he will trust you.
- Verify his contacts, communicate with them to identify who could be influencing your son's rebellious phase, and expose their true colors. Ensure to record their dialogue via video or chat logs, or share your account with your son to show him how treacherous and corrupted they are in the chat logs with other parties. You can read more here on how to reveal people's true personalities through certain characteristics.
The intermediate way:
- Offer him alternatives that won't waste his life away; for example, suggest PlayStation 3 instead of PlayStation 4 or PlayStation 5. PS3 is a complete offline console, while PS4 or PS5 are focused more on online communication and sociability, thus leading to potential corruption and unnecessary expenses.
- Show him more appealing resources and support his talents for innovation. Show him that a PC can be used for more than just gaming, such as photo editing, office work, or media professions that are suited to his talents. There are also cases of children being attached to animation, similar to their attachment to games.
The quickest way:
- If he has been a layman all along and he is trying to freeload in the home while you can't compensate for all his expenses, then take away everything, sell them all, and make him earn money for all his entertainment equipment through his own efforts. Force him to rent his room from you if you own the house. Offer him discounts if he commits himself to education, or to his future, or to your obedience.