Is friendship overrated?

[Ageon Mystmir]

Friendship is undoubtedly overrated. Its value and worth are defined by its wielders, and can vary depending on the era or media genre.

[Definition mishap]

Friend is a nickname while ship is like load or charge, so when you add them together with one space “Friend shipment”. It will feel like a shipment of a person named friend. The same goes for anything which ends with ship but for family it is another story. If the shipment applies to companion or specified relation such as companionship or relationship then that is okay, but when you think of friend definition it is as if a name of a person being delivered to you unwillingly.

[Researches]

In friendship:

• Unwillingly share your credits with your group.
• Compel yourself, with or without bad health, to attend events and ceremonies to demonstrate your trustworthiness.
• Love them unconditionally, and allow them to interfere as they prefer, even when you haven't asked them in the first place, or when you ask for their help and they are selective based on their skill level.
• They express their concern for you momentarily in what they bear, but never offer their concern at any other time when they cannot cope.
• They demand gifts from you even if it is your last saving of money, and you are either embarrassed or unable to negotiate due to the observance of commemorative days and other important events.
• No privacy or space at all, or even to take care of your priorities or important values in life.

Friendship requires:

• Patience
• Unfaithful tolerance
• Money
• Health
• Mind
• Egoism
• No-individuality
• No-privacy

Now, when I read the requirements, it feels like marriage to me. At least in marriage, you have rights; but when you are betrayed in friendship, you will never have any alternatives or any way to back up your rights.

As human’s well-being:

• You work hard for your society and will take credit for it.
• You always have time to take care of your health and that of your family.
• You can always love others conditionally and make the choice freely, without forcing yourself into any other traits or letting others represent you; you only represent yourself.
• You can be concerned for whomever you wish and can be concerned for by others for the concern you have given them.
• There are no demands to gift anyone, and you do it by your own selective choice and freedom.
• Privacy always, with enough space to take care of your values, and you get to share what you want.

Well-being requires:

• Self-esteem
• Self-worth
• Intellect
• Capability
• Individuality
• Privacy

The comparison between friendship and well-being shows that, despite being placed first, friendship is very demanding. However, well-being demonstrates the wealth of life and the ability to function better as an individual or in groups than friendship. If ever friendship were needed for group interaction or sociability, well-being could offer that. If you ever wanted to be persistent and do what you value, then well-being is for you; but if you wish for your credits or contributions to be stolen or taken all the time while being an underling, then friendship is for you, my dear reader.

[Eras]

• In medieval era

Friendship was a replacement for family relations. During wars or country conflicts, a villager or knight may choose to be your best family member and replace those you have lost.

• In Modern era

Friendship goes to different ages:

Children need friendship in situations such as parental absence or for personal cuddles and love, which can replace the loneliness they feel. This is because they do not have the complex thinking or intellect to think of relationships on the same level as adults, and the consequences of performing it. As their need for one another is what fulfills them, they do not have any concern for anything else and they find it easier than adults. However, they are likely to be rejected by older people, unless one of the older individuals who lacks intelligence and mentality agrees and approves of the child as a form of interaction to pass the time.

Teens need friendship for their activities or competitions in high-volume areas and for social attention. If you don't provide them with the support they need, they won't hesitate to replace you. In this case, they will need you for education, part-time jobs, or sociability in general, but they will never be loyal until the end.

Adults don't need friendship at all, as they find more worth in keeping their families or in the relations they have created along their journey towards maturity and academic education.

Mature adults won't give a second thought about friendship when they have their occupations and families to take care of and to feed through their daily work of the jobs they favor most.

Elders, particularly the older ones, are busy living their best moments of their lives or trying to cure themselves of age-related illnesses.

To summarize:
It all depends on the complexity of the mind, as each age passes by. As one grows, the need for friendship decreases. Friendship is usually for those who have fragile hearts, ill minds, and intensively need to rely on others for what they lack for themselves. However, this does not apply to children. It is not sensible for grown-ups to use this definition any longer, unless they are still too poor to be grown-ups.

[Genres]

• In fantasy genre:

Friendship is a powerful and strong asset for both numbers and superiority when members are trained and synchronized to achieve a common goal.

• In science-fiction genre:

Friendship doesn't mean anything as long as you have colleagues and intellect to draw out the most potential from futurist projects such as gigantic robots or powerful spaceships.

[Time Periods]

• Past:

In the past, friendship meant something, but now I call it a "fiend shift". They shift themselves into any images you have ever been dreaming about as true fiends. Do not trust anyone who says that fiend shift is anything meaningful to you or to others. Plus, if friendship was a very powerful word, why would it be so easily abused? Why would it be so easily broken? Wouldn't that mean that friendship has become outdated and no longer viable? You can't, for example, set a chair with broken legs and call it the best chair in the world. It is saddening enough that humans need to define their bonds just to show their well-being, or to know what to do for others, or to show their gratitude, or to show their interest. It is shameful enough that you have to call them friends without calling them by their true names, just to get them to lend you a hand during times of trouble. We are humans, but certain humans are true humans due to their well-being and intellect that measure their entity in society. That means it is time to bid farewell to friendship and find an update in the dictionary!

• Present:

Nowadays, a neighbor might knock on your door and tell you, 'Lend me your blender because I am your friend!' or another one will tell you, 'Can you give me a cup of coffee from your pocket money because I am your friend?' People think that friendship is a precious item or diamond for many different reasons, but they will never be honest about it as they don't want to waste the effort they have put into proving it to you.

Their causes resemble in the following:

• Benefit

The usage is their commodity of trade and life, fragile enough to get anything done themselves, so they catch you and lie to you numerous times until you serve them the favors they beg.

• Lust

The massacred-heads who want nothing but their sexual desires with you. Though they call it a friendship, they will lie to you in order to keep you as part of their collection of cards they have scammed.

• Enforced approval

Tell them they are wrong for one certain reason that everybody else approves to be correct, and they will give you thousands of reasons why they are right, while the whole world and life must seem false to you and to others like you.

• Crime

Friendship is also a way to track your information and protect your privacy so that you can avoid being killed, raped, kidnapped, or robbed.

[Conceptions]

At least for friendship to be true like in medieval ages and to turn out to be family relationship rather better than a mere standard friendship, it has to meet a few of the conceptions you must check out for yourself. Note: we are assuming here that two individuals are trying to be the best of pals.

• Do you even need it in the first place? As you don’t have other values in life which occupy you, and you are not interested in such a definition?
• Have you acknowledged each other, or introduced yourselves at least to both of your families?
• Do you know anything about them, and do they know anything about you?
• Is your communication higher than a limited fashion of usage only, or higher than distant conversations?
• Do you know the faces of each other, your personal preferences, and even the location where you both live? What are the names of your family members?
• Do you have confidential approval that you can behave in each other’s place and represent each other for what it is worth, or to other individuals?
• Do you know what it takes to sacrifice without favors as a human principle, and not just to throw favors or bets or deals to get attention and to have someone just to serve you as your underling?

[Performance & Practice]

How can you perform what is better than friendship? (Well-being practice)

• Trust your family members; they are your best friends for life, unless you have a terrible family that is ready to kick you out onto the street or kill you or steal from you, in which case do not consider this advice.
• Online contacts for the purpose of interaction are okay, as you will need some wisdom or more speech for the sake of knowledge or information.
• Colleagues or students from the workplace or school are okay, as you can study or work together.
• Sport clubs for sport friends and best of rivals is the best solution to keep oneself sane and healthy.
• Comrades in arms or in online games are the best of definitions, provided they serve the purpose from which they come.

Many more can be advanced with, all earned through life.

[Fraudulence]

Now that should clarify why fiend shift is nothing like a diamond or treasure as people claim. It is only valuable to those who make use of it and have the least complex intellect to grasp something higher or more valuable. Our lives are short enough, so I advise most of you to start researching and confirming the truth to make the most of what is better than friendship. Don't believe those who tell you that friendship is anything meaningful to you. They are just a bunch of frauds who want to intervene in the series of your life for their own gain or their personal desires or their fragile proposals that are worthless in the end.

[True values]

As you can see, it isn't the "fiend shift” that makes someone more or less valuable to you. It is their attitude and their treatment towards you that you must appreciate, and not throw away their credit on some delusional definition and make them less worthy while they have done a variety and stood for you. It isn't the "fiend shift” that does it for you, but the well-being and mutual respect are the reason for the real bond that we call, my dear readers, "humanity". Your importance to yourselves, your confidence in yourselves, and your love for your families should be more valuable than a mere friendship and stand above anything else, so don't look around to search for a friend just to benefit or use as a card to play. When you have what you value most already, that means your humanity. If you still assume that you have nothing, then I will tell you that having nothing is still much better than falling for such schematic or cuddly words that should be told to children instead of grown-ups, so start calling friendship as fiend shift as its new true name and tell others how awful it is. You always deserve what is more worthy and more valuable in life than a temporary pact that doesn't even last a minute! Your humanity will always stand above everything and so your values of life!